Beautiful documentary series – and a must watch. The Other Side of the Glass started the conversation about a man’s experience at his baby’s birth and his need to be seen as having his own experience as the father, a partner, and a witness. Men across the US shared their experiences of birthing their babies as “like being in a war zone” and being powerless – on “the other side of the glass” even if present.
“The Other Side of the Glass is about a baby, a mama’s and family’s basic human right to labor and birth free of fear and intimidation. It is about protecting the emotional and physical connection between mom/dad/baby. It is about love and peace for every soul entering this world.”
– Morgan Matthews, Doula, Educator, mother of 3
The man’s experience of becoming a father was mostly ignored prior to the fundraising trailer here that went viral in the fall of 2009. This ground-breaking work by Janel Mirendah is based on her decade of study and practice of pre & perinatal psychology and craniosacral-based attachment/birth healing therapy.
The father in the photo was in the nursery and refused to leave. He insisted on holding his newborn who was born by cesarean and needed to be under lamps. His four other children were born at home – unattended – and he caught them.
The film features David Chamberlain, PhD founder of pre and perinatal psychology and others in the field, as well as nurses, midwives, doctors (Michel Odent MD, Stuart Fischbein MD, Sarah Buckley MD, and others), doulas, and grandmothers.
The overall theme of the film is the foundation established by the mother-baby connection at birth is neurologically critical for creating a humanity that is in thriving (love) mode, rather than in survival (fear) mode. The neural understanding of the mother-baby development and connection is introduced; and the film focuses on the needs of newborns at birth and the impact on family and society for not understanding this and for not meeting those needs.
The film implores caregivers (midwives, nurses, doctors) to be the ones to protect the mother-baby dyad and father in the hospital and home settings, and to be the ones to protect skin-to-skin at birth.
The film asks men to become aware of the critical need to see birth as a vital experience and to protect birth for all humans. The film supports men to realize they can not protect their child and partner in the modern patriarchal-based maternity system; but, men can engage in protecting all women and babies by addressing their local hospitals, county, and state policymakers.
“We have two jobs, you know. The first thing is to stop the harming, and then the second is to heal those who have already been harmed. Do our best, best to heal, right? That’s what I see you doing.”
– Mike Hagan, father of two
Docuseries – 6 chapters
Ch 1: From the Beginning 8:27
Ch 2: His Moment of Awe – 11:52
Ch 3: His and Herstory – 44:00
Ch 4: Missing Fathers – 1:14:12
Ch 5: The Missing Piece in Peace – 1:26:35
Ch 6: Healing the Feminine and Masculine – 1:47:22
“Dear Janel Mirendah, I can’t express my gratitude and appreciation to you in words, after watching your phenomenal documentary last night!!! It is so deep, and meaningful! Each and every word, written and spoken! It does start out with bringing forth the perspectives and feelings of men about the birth and how birth impact them as a person and how it impact’s their own self-esteem and personal relationships, but it goes a long way by revealing the larger impact of this medically created helplessness on not only the man as an individual but also extends to the family, community nations, and the entire world, and how our current world of disharmony, imbalance and violence is just a reflection of the inner state of violated and traumatized humanity! It’s one of the most meaningful things that I have ever come across in my life! Thanks for making this movie! And thanks for giving it out for free for us to watch!!! I wish soon it should be available on OTT platforms like amazon prime, Netflix.” – film feedback
Director, videographer, and editor: Janel Mirendah
Executive Producer: Mariah Miranda